Women and Men: Influencers and Leaders
Continuing on with my thoughts on women and men, below is the next part of the article I wrote. I jump right into women being influencers and men being leaders at their core (it doesn’t mean women can’t lead and men can’t influence, but it is how they do those things). If you take time to really mediate on this I think you will see what I am saying . . . I believe it is important to seek out and understand the strengths that we were made with because then we can honor one another instead of overpower or abuse.
One core dynamic between women and men is in the complementary powers of influence and leadership. Women are influencers, representing the church. The men are leaders, representing Christ. We influence Christ’s heart toward us and others through respect and honoring His leadership. We depend on His leadership for the benefit of our lives.
Though marriage is the exemplar of this dynamic, these two qualities of influence and leadership underscore all aspects of life. Whether single, married or widowed, a woman’s power is in her influence and a man’s power is in his leadership. These attributes speak not so much to what we do but how we do it. They are the underlying force energizing our actions. Men influence and women lead, but how they carry out those roles is what makes them different and compliment one another, not create discord.
Among other traits, a woman manifests the qualities of beauty, compassion, sensitivity, and intuitiveness. She possesses these attributes to accomplish her role of influencing the actions of others for good. Influence involves the ability to produce an effect without apparent exertion of force or direct exercise of command. Just about every woman in the Bible was an influencer to a leader; Eve to Adam, Ruth to Boaz, Esther to King Ahasuerus, Sarah to Abraham, Herodias to Herod, Rebecca to Jacob, Rachel to Jacob, Delilah and Samson, and Pilate’s wife to Pilate. These women modeled both the negative and positive outcomes of this role. Remaining behind the scenes, their influence on history is astounding; they were the progenitors of significant events. Influencers hold a powerful position, and women are accountable for the ability that has been given them. How a woman fulfills her role will determine whether she will be a positive or negative influence in the lives of others. In lacking understanding of her role, abusing or suppressing it, she will create mayhem. It is her responsibility to learn from God about her role and trust His working in her to execute it with confidence and humility. In a similar fashion, the church influences the body of Christ.
A man represents the qualities of strength, protection, passion, provision and authority. All these attributes enable him to lead others. Christ set the perfect example. God put us under His care. (John 17:9) Representing the head, men have been given others to care for, whether those “others” are families, businesses, or nations. Noah, Abraham, Moses, Joshua, David, Solomon, Joseph, Jesus, and the Apostles are a few examples of leaders who provided, protected, and loved those they were responsible for. Follow a proficient leader and there will be provision, protection, organization, vision, and growth. Leaders set the course, steer the ship and take command. The goal of their leadership is to benefit others. Their authority isn’t a dictatorship; it is a stewardship to those whom they lead. Being at the helm is a tremendous responsibility and requires courage and humility. (Mark 10:43) In a similar manner, Christ, as our leader, is our preeminent example.
As leaders, it is critical for men to see the situation from a fuller perspective and here is where oneness between man, the leader, and woman, the influencer, comes into play. Men bear the responsibility for the ones they lead. God has placed men at the helm and if they are negligent all will suffer. Using keen discernment, men profit when they take heed of the influencers whose role it is to help them. God gave women different strengths that benefit men. They see, feel, and experience what men don’t. The combined wisdom and insight produces a better result. Alone all suffer, together all prevail. God created them to work together not in isolation.
November 21, 2011 at 6:48 pm
I’m kind of confused though. What does it look like in practice for example how Paul says the woman was deceived first so she must’nt speak and how the man is the head so the woman must cover her hair etc
November 25, 2011 at 12:06 pm
Hi … the Bible can be confusing and remains sealed to us until the Holy Spirit gives us the framework of truth, then all begins to fit together and make sense. In these two situations, the woman is refering to the church, the body of Christ. Christ is to teach us, not we ourselves Matthew 23:8 and the church must be covered by the righteousness of Christ.
November 27, 2011 at 3:22 pm
Ok. But I thought he was also speaking literally to the women in that particular church with regard to speaking in church. Or was he only speaking symbolically? Thank you for taking time to answer
November 28, 2011 at 9:49 am
Hi- yes he probably was speaking to those women as well. The Bible is layer upon layer. Women typically didn’t have the instruction in those days as men did, so you didn’t want people speaking out of their own imaginations .. which happens often today. So in both cases we can learn from it.
November 28, 2011 at 7:19 pm
Eldon here, Hey Rachel may I add a thought? God said men &women were to be chaste & few people know the definition in God’s terms. -The first act of Jesus turning water to wine. it may have been the tone or demeanor of His mother’s speech, but Jesus informed her that He was a full grown man &leader of their familly, however His mothers words had good meaning & He saved the day. PS I have found at lest six teachings in this event!
November 29, 2011 at 11:06 am
Hi Eldon – interesting take on that passage. I was thinking about these scriptures just the other day. Jesus was talking about much more than meets the eye when He said what He did to Mary, as were most of His words. I feel there is much more to learn, so I’m seeking 🙂
November 30, 2011 at 7:50 am
as with everything single word and action that Our Dear Saviour spoke and done while on earth, what is known as the first miracle in John 2 of turning the water into wine,..you can be sure theres a greater significance to that parable,..as with all the parables in Scripture there is hidden manna to feast and indulge our souls,regarding the times we live in and the times ahead!…..the wine His Mother spoke of,..and His answer to her was about a very different time, and,hence meant,..a very different ‘wine’
he who has ears let him hear!
November 30, 2011 at 10:36 am
Hi Brian – I emailed you in response to your email about this. Indeed, it is speaking of the end times and the coming of His kingdom to earth, and the new wine being poured into the prepared wine skins. Powerful truths.
November 30, 2011 at 8:48 am
Hey Rachel, I perceive you to be as Paul said of Phebe, “a deaconess”. (blows a lot of delusion, don’t you think?) -contrary to popular beleif, I do have respect for some denominational &evangealical preachers in their true heart felt for the Lord. The indifferance lay with the fact that they do not yet know they are one so strong with delusion that if it were possible would fool those that have a strong love for God’s truth. Some of these even go into the houses and confound silly women to the point of thinking it is ok for them to also spread delusion for money. PS. If woman had less brain power than man would it be hard for man to be chaste against following woman like a whipped pup?
November 30, 2011 at 10:42 am
Hi Eldon, on a mass scale the blind is leading the blind. Thus, they don’t realize the delusion they are in or spreading, which is the art of deception.
2 Timothy 3:13 But evil men and seducers shall wax worse and worse, deceiving, and being deceived.
But the good news is that all that is in darkness will be brought to light, and that truth will deliver many.
1 Corin 4:5 Therefore judge nothing before the time, until the Lord comes, who will both bring to light the hidden things of darkness and reveal the counsels of the hearts. Then each one’s praise will come from God.