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Sticks and Stones: The Power of Words

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Sticks and Stones: The Power of Words

Who do you give “authority” to? 

Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.

Above is one of the most popular childhood rhymes that needs a little dissecting, because most of us have been corrupted, damaged, and lived a life of pain because of the words of others, words spoken by those we gave and still give “authority” to.

People speak and act according to how they are not according to the object of their words and actions.  Yet, far too often we’ve internalized the damaging words and actions of others. And God wants to free us.

There are many forms of this truth, but let’s take someone lashing out at another.  When someone delivers a verbal barrage of negativity, it’s about them not the recipient. The problem is most people own other people’s words when it aligns with concepts spoken to them in the past by “authorities”.  When someone lashes out then the recipient thinks something is wrong with them or it’s about them, when the painful delivery has nothing to do with them. How a person acts is all about them; not the recipient. But if their actions and words line up with what an authority figure in their lives spoke, especially a parent or an influential figure of their childhood, they will believe it and internalize the other’s baggage making it a part of who they are.

For example, if someone lost the car keys … I could call them an idiot for being so careless, or not even say a word but in my mind think what an idiot for being so careless. Either way, they would feel the condemnation because people respond to what we give off, not just our words. Matt 5:28 OR I would know we all do forgetful things, help them find the keys, and develop a strategy so they won’t lose them in the future. Consider the impact of the two responses on the recipient. The first would probably make them feel bad about themselves because most people incorrectly own others negative reactions toward them, especially if it was in line with what an authority figure said. The second would be uplifting and helpful.

The greatest impact of this dynamic is with children, which we all were at one point so consider what “baggage” you’ve owned from others. With children, the parents usually have the greatest authority in their lives, what they say the children believe without question and own it as their truth. Whatever they say, the children believe and manifest in their lives. If the parents said they were a loser, then that is how they will grow up unless or until they have a higher authority tell them differently at some point. This is just what children do, they believe their parents.  Children don’t have the experience to realize that how their parents speak to them is about them and not the child. They don’t have a more powerful authority in their lives to tell them otherwise. Calling a child a loser has nothing to do with himself, and everything about the parent, which at one time it had nothing to do with that parent until he heard it from his parents and so on. This is an example of how sin spreads like cancer, because most people own other people’s baggage. 2 Timothy 2:17

You see how lies are passed along. How faulty frameworks about who we are formed. We all grow up with lies by owning others’ baggage. Lies make a train wreck of our lives, but Christ came to rewrite our lives and who we are. He came to show us who we truly are; beautiful, bountiful, blissful, boundless, bold, beloved, and blessed. What we believe we manifest. Many are manifesting the pain of others because they took ownership of their pain by believing their words. Christ came to set us free. John 8:32

As we mature spiritually, we realize that God is our authority, therefore we listen to what He says. When we do listen to Him, our framework changes and we learn that all the negativity spoken to us was about the speaker’s pain and baggage, and had nothing to do with us. If they were different and didn’t have their own bondage they would have never spoken that way to others. This understanding of their bondage is key to forgiveness and love that covers a multitude of sins.

Words are incredibly powerful when they come from someone we’ve given authority to. Who we give authority to dictates our life, because authority manifests belief. What we believe in we create as our reality.  If we give someone authority, then we trust what they say and make their words are truth. Consider the authorities in your life, parents, doctors, PHDs, field experts, spouses, friends, political talking heads, and religious leaders.  What kind of path have they led you on? This isn’t blaming, but taking responsibility for what we hold as truth and who we’ve placed as authorities in our lives who shouldn’t be.

If you still have misplaced authorities, it’s time to dethrone them. Psalm 1:1 THE authority in our lives should be God. Others can confirm what He tells you, but He should be THE authority – because He will speak ONLY truth to you. When He is your authority, you are on the path to tremendous freedom. Freedom from all others’ judgment, opinions, comments, and actions. Thus, freedom from others’ pain and bondage. Freedom from the lies. Freedom to be who you were created to be, someone magnificent because that is the kind of creator God is. Freedom to live a new life and a new reality. We are simply covered in the mud of lies so that is all we can see of ourselves. As mud washes off, God’s truth washes us clean. Putting people as authorities in our lives is putting our lives in the wrong hands. If you truly want to live free, then your authority must be God.

Consider Jesus did anyone alter what He thought and knew about who He was? No. He knew the Truth and His authority was God.

So as long as people are putting others in authority who shouldn’t be the lies spread generation to generation. Misplaced authority manifests false beliefs, and false beliefs manifest a life of suffering and bondage. Our beliefs determine our lives.

Instead of owning the baggage and lies of others, find your identity in Christ and respond with love. In love, tell them it’s not acceptable and look beyond the surface to that bound soul from which came such anger, bitterness, resentment, pain, self-pity, blame, criticalness, and judgment. They need deliverance too. They need love. We all do.

Author: Rachel

My passion is cultivating a deep relationship with God and helping others to do the same. I LOVE sharing with others insights that God has taught me and hearing what God has taught them... thus my blog, Stirring the Deep. My focus is on a relationship, not a religion. Life is in the relationship. I believe in a balance and unity of body, mind and spirit. I feel it's important to nurture all three for they all affect each other. I try to live in the present, where the Holy Spirit is. And I try to do all with the motive of love. I've come to believe life is a journey and not a destination. It isn't about perfection, is it about growth.

12 thoughts on “Sticks and Stones: The Power of Words

  1. Which is easier to say:
    ‘Thy sins be Forgiven Thee';~

    or ~ “I Love You”?

  2. i’ll just jump right in the deep end here with this one,

    …we all know Rev 13 v16 ….’a mark on his right hand and on his forehead’……but …. the mark of Our Heavenly Father is also to be in our foreheads and on our hands,..Deut 6 v 7-9
    7.Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.
    8 Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads.
    9 Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.

    meaning, what you have in your brain is what you will say and do with your actions,..so if you have Our Father,and His Laws first and foremost in your head they will be visible by what you say and do!…
    Deut 11 v 18-20..and .Proverbs 6:20-23……gives the same message.
    and what we are inside will show on the outside,…and this will affect others.

    and

    Rev14 v 1,..even deeper,probably the 2 most important things you could have engrained deep in your forehead

    • Hi Brian, what a great add Brian. Over the years as I have sought God, He has renewed my mind on so many levels. His counsel, wisdom and truth relate and affect every dynamic of life. When we seek the truth from Him, we find He penetrates every dark corner our soul with His light, truth.

  3. Hi Rachel,
    You rescued me again without me even realizing it. Was rather upset about something I had just read so click on your home page and read the start of this article. Thank you for making me feel better. x
    It is what I believe in that matters the most to me. I do not care what other people think!
    x

    • Hi Alison, caring about what others think is a snare and a trap, the only one that matters is God’s thoughts toward us and His judgments for He is the One that truly knows us.

  4. Ah Rachel. . .this is so needed, in my life and others. You have shed light on a persistent and on going problem and shown how it isn’t one we have to live with though. We can be free of it in Jesus! Thank you soooo much! And just checking / asking but I’m thinking that respecting and honoring someone else doesn’t have to include giving them authority over us? Submitting to one another doesn’t mean giving them authority over us?
    God bless you and thank you for being His ambassador of truth!

    • Hi Debbie, this is such an important concept for us to understand … it is key to a lot of healing and deliverance.

      Interestingly, when your authority is God, then you can truly respect another and yourself in a way that is healthy and constructive. Submission is an interesting subject, and is to be done in accordance to God’s entire truth. Submission is to come from a place of wisdom and love and honoring God above all, which often requires us to lay down our pride to serve others in the love and truth as God counsels us to.

  5. This is so true. Thank you for your wisdom. If sticks and stones are our words, we can either use it to hurt people by beating them with it or build a city where we all can live together in harmony. Some how I got that from writing this blog :)

    • I meant, some how I got that from reading this blog.

    • Hi, our words are so powerful … may they be used to truly up others, and for that to truly happen they have to be directed by the Spirit of God for He knows which each one needs to hear. This is part of laying down our will, and letting God move through us in each interaction.

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